“Don’t tell thin women to eat a cheeseburger. Don’t tell fat women to put down the fork. Don’t tell underweight men to bulk up. Don’t tell women with facial hair to wax, don’t tell uncircumcised men they’re gross, don’t tell muscular women to go easy on the dead-lift, don’t tell dark-skinned women to bleach their vaginas, don’t tell black women to relax their hair, don’t tell flat-chested women to get breast implants, don’t tell “apple-shaped” women what’s “flattering,” don’t tell mothers to hide their stretch marks, and don’t tell people whose toes you don’t approve of not to wear flip-flops. And so on, etc, etc, in every iteration until the mountains crumble to the sea. Basically, just go ahead and CEASE telling other human beings what they “should” and “shouldn’t” do with their bodies unless a) you are their doctor, or b) SOMEBODY GODDAMN ASKED YOU.”—Lindy West, Thin Women: I’ve Got Your Back. Could You Get Mine? (via thespookytenenbaums)
Have you ever just had someone tell you something that rips you apart and you can literally feel your chest hurting and your heart is racing and there’s a lump in your throat and it’s just so powerful what words can do just wow words
Hey I know its tough and you've got some hard decisons to make so take your time and choose what you feel is right for you *hugs and love*
Thank you. I really want to do the right thing by everyone but this time I know I need to to do what’s right for me. I think I know what’s best for me but I’m too scared and embarrassed to admit it. Hopefully things will work out. Hope you have a nice day! ❤️
My therapy sessions have now finished and I really don’t know what to do. I was allocated a six week block which I didn’t have to pay for but now, if I want to continue I’m going to have to start paying.
I didn’t think that not having a therapist to talk to would make a big difference as I didn’t have one before but since starting I’ve felt it’s made a big difference. I was open with him and felt like I could tell him things I would never ever tell others. I think I will miss it.
The thing is, because I’m at uni, I didn’t tell anyone (including my mum) other than 2 of my very close friends that I was going to therapy. I can’t afford to pay for sessions myself but I feel waaaaay to guilty to tell my mum/ ask her to pay for sessions after everything she’s been through and I know she worried horrendously about me (and probably still does). I’m also just scared to tell her because I am genuinely happier right now and she knows that so I don’t want to worry her (that’s the kind of person she is). I feel like a fraud because I’m at a healthy weight, even though my eating issues are only some of the problem and even though I logically know that I still struggle and my issues ARE real and important.
With exams coming up and so many other things going on I just don’t want to deal with this and feel so messed up and confused about the whole thing :(.
Hello! How nice of you to ask, I’m very aware that it have been very absent recently. Things are really good, there have been a few ups and downs but everything is mainly all good and thinking back to this time last year, the difference is incredible. It makes me realise how bad things were.
Life is very busy, I have been running a lot, had lots of deadlines to keep up with, lots of socialising and I have exams coming up in December (which I really need to start working for). I’m going to London for the weekend with my mum on Friday and I CAN’T WAIT!
I’m still going to therapy, which on the whole is really useful and I get on well with my therapist. We’re looking at doing some longer term work after this 6 week block is over as there are still a few things I struggle with.
Also, there’s a guy I’m sort of seeing right now. We’ve been friends since the start of uni but just kinda got together recently. We don’t really know where it’s going right now but I really like him and I think the feeling is mutual so we’ll see..
I shall try and do a big update soon but it made me really happy that someone out there on tumblr wants to know how I’m doing! I still struggle from time to time but I really am much happier. Wow this was long, love to you all! xxx